Your Lifestyle Has Already Been Designed

Your Lifestyle Has Already Been Designed

Mar 11, 2013

By David Cain

Well I’m in the working world again. I’ve found myself a well-paying gig in the engineering industry, and life finally feels like it’s returning to normal after my nine months of traveling.

Because I had been living quite a different lifestyle while I was away, this sudden transition to 9-to-5 existence has exposed something about it that I overlooked before.

Since the moment I was offered the job, I’ve been markedly more careless with my money. Not stupid, just a little quick to pull out my wallet. As a small example, I’m buying expensive coffees again, even though they aren’t nearly as good as New Zealand’s exceptional flat whites, and I don’t get to savor the experience of drinking them on a sunny café patio. When I was away these purchases were less off-handed, and I enjoyed them more.

I’m not talking about big, extravagant purchases. I’m talking about small-scale, casual, promiscuous spending on stuff that doesn’t really add a whole lot to my life. And I won’t actually get paid for another two weeks.

In hindsight I think I’ve always done this when I’ve been well-employed — spending happily during the “flush times.” Having spent nine months living a no-income backpacking lifestyle, I can’t help but be a little more aware of this phenomenon as it happens.

I suppose I do it because I feel I’ve regained a certain stature, now that I am again an amply-paid professional, which seems to entitle me to a certain level of wastefulness. There is a curious feeling of power you get when you drop a couple of twenties without a trace of critical thinking. It feels good to exercise that power of the dollar when you know it will “grow back” pretty quickly anyway.

What I’m doing isn’t unusual at all. Everyone else seems to do this. In fact, I think I’ve only returned to the normal consumer mentality after having spent some time away from it.

One of the most surprising discoveries I made during my trip was that I spent much less per month traveling foreign counties (including countries more expensive than Canada) than I did as a regular working joe back home. I had much more free time, I was visiting some of the most beautiful places in the world, I was meeting new people left and right, I was calm and peaceful and otherwise having an unforgettable time, and somehow it cost me much less than my humble 9-5 lifestyle here in one of Canada’s least expensive cities.

It seems I got much more for my dollar when I was traveling. Why?

A Culture of Unnecessaries

Here in the West, a lifestyle of unnecessary spending has been deliberately cultivated and nurtured in the public by big business. Companies in all kinds of industries have a huge stake in the public’s penchant to be careless with their money. They will seek to encourage the public’s habit of casual or non-essential spending whenever they can.

In the documentary The Corporation, a marketing psychologist discussed one of the methods she used to increase sales. Her staff carried out a study on what effect the nagging of children had on their parents’ likelihood of buying a toy for them. They found out that 20% to 40% of the purchases of their toys would not have occurred if the child didn’t nag its parents. One in four visits to theme parks would not have taken place. They used these studies to market their products directly to children, encouraging them to nag their parents to buy.

This marketing campaign alone represents many millions of dollars that were spent because of demand that was completely manufactured.

“You can manipulate consumers into wanting, and therefore buying, your products. It’s a game.” ~ Lucy Hughes, co-creator of “The Nag Factor”

This is only one small example of something that has been going on for a very long time. Big companies didn’t make their millions by earnestly promoting the virtues of their products, they made it by creating a culture of hundreds of millions of people that buy way more than they need and try to chase away dissatisfaction with money.

We buy stuff to cheer ourselves up, to keep up with the Joneses, to fulfill our childhood vision of what our adulthood would be like, to broadcast our status to the world, and for a lot of other psychological reasons that have very little to do with how useful the product really is. How much stuff is in your basement or garage that you haven’t used in the past year?

The real reason for the forty-hour workweek

The ultimate tool for corporations to sustain a culture of this sort is to develop the 40-hour workweek as the normal lifestyle. Under these working conditions people have to build a life in the evenings and on weekends. This arrangement makes us naturally more inclined to spend heavily on entertainment and conveniences because our free time is so scarce.

I’ve only been back at work for a few days, but already I’m noticing that the more wholesome activities are quickly dropping out of my life: walking, exercising, reading, meditating, and extra writing.

The one conspicuous similarity between these activities is that they cost little or no money, but they take time.

Suddenly I have a lot more money and a lot less time, which means I have a lot more in common with the typical working North American than I did a few months ago. While I was abroad I wouldn’t have thought twice about spending the day wandering through a national park or reading my book on the beach for a few hours. Now that kind of stuff feels like it’s out of the question. Doing either one would take most of one of my precious weekend days!

The last thing I want to do when I get home from work is exercise. It’s also the last thing I want to do after dinner or before bed or as soon as I wake, and that’s really all the time I have on a weekday.

This seems like a problem with a simple answer: work less so I’d have more free time. I’ve already proven to myself that I can live a fulfilling lifestyle with less than I make right now. Unfortunately, this is close to impossible in my industry, and most others. You work 40-plus hours or you work zero. My clients and contractors are all firmly entrenched in the standard-workday culture, so it isn’t practical to ask them not to ask anything of me after 1 p.m., even if I could convince my employer not to.

The eight-hour workday developed during the industrial revolution in Britain in the 19th century, as a respite for factory workers who were being exploited with 14- or 16-hour workdays.

As technologies and methods advanced, workers in all industries became able to produce much more value in a shorter amount of time. You’d think this would lead to shorter workdays.

But the 8-hour workday is too profitable for big business, not because of the amount of work people get done in eight hours (the average office worker gets less than three hours of actual work done in 8 hours) but because it makes for such a purchase-happy public. Keeping free time scarce means people pay a lot more for convenience, gratification, and any other relief they can buy. It keeps them watching television, and its commercials. It keeps them unambitious outside of work.

We’ve been led into a culture that has been engineered to leave us tired, hungry for indulgence, willing to pay a lot for convenience and entertainment, and most importantly, vaguely dissatisfied with our lives so that we continue wanting things we don’t have. We buy so much because it always seems like something is still missing.

Western economies, particularly that of the United States, have been built in a very calculated manner on gratification, addiction, and unnecessary spending. We spend to cheer ourselves up, to reward ourselves, to celebrate, to fix problems, to elevate our status, and to alleviate boredom.

Can you imagine what would happen if all of America stopped buying so much unnecessary fluff that doesn’t add a lot of lasting value to our lives?

The economy would collapse and never recover.

All of America’s well-publicized problems, including obesity, depression, pollution and corruption are what it costs to create and sustain a trillion-dollar economy. For the economy to be “healthy,” America has to remain unhealthy. Healthy, happy people don’t feel like they need much they don’t already have, and that means they don’t buy a lot of junk, don’t need to be entertained as much, and they don’t end up watching a lot of commercials.

The culture of the eight-hour workday is big business’ most powerful tool for keeping people in this same dissatisfied state where the answer to every problem is to buy something.

You may have heard of Parkinson’s Law. It is often used in reference to time usage: the more time you’ve been given to do something, the more time it will take you to do it. It’s amazing how much you can get done in twenty minutes if twenty minutes is all you have. But if you have all afternoon, it would probably take way longer.

Most of us treat our money this way. The more we make, the more we spend. It’s not that we suddenly need to buy more just because we make more, only that we can, so we do. In fact, it’s quite difficult for us to avoid increasing our standard of living (or at least our rate of spending) every time we get a raise.

I don’t think it’s necessary to shun the whole ugly system and go live in the woods, pretending to be a deaf-mute, as Holden Caulfield often fantasized. But we could certainly do well to understand what big commerce really wants us to be. They’ve been working for decades to create millions of ideal consumers, and they have succeeded. Unless you’re a real anomaly, your lifestyle has already been designed.

The perfect customer is dissatisfied but hopeful, uninterested in serious personal development, highly habituated to the television, working full-time, earning a fair amount, indulging during their free time, and somehow just getting by.

Is this you?

Two weeks ago I would have said hell no, that’s not me, but if all my weeks were like this one has been, that might be wishful thinking.

Cameron Rees – Cycling 13 Countries, 2010

Cameron Rees – Cycling 13 Countries, 2010

Jan 19, 2011

One afternoon in Budapest I met Cameron, an Australian who has cycled 6,244 km alone around Europe. On this 118-day journey he spent 312 hours cycling, averaging 20.0 kph speed, visiting 13 Countries, 5 train journeys, 43 974 Vm of climbing and lots of fun.

Berlin to Georgia Republic and back Travel Video Diary

Berlin to Georgia Republic and back Travel Video Diary

Nov 4, 2010

This is my travel video diary which shows highlights of my hitch-hiking trip from Berlin to Georgia Republic via Istanbul and back. Along the path I visited these cities. BIG THANKS to every couchsurfer and driver who made this trip possible and unforgettable!!! The trip began on August 4 2010 and ended on November 3rd 2010.
The only money I took on this 3-month trip was $1000 cash, spending only $833 for food, and the rest for buying an rain jacket in Sofia, warm hat in Vienna, a railroad ticket from Tbilisi to Batumi, hostel for two nights in Odessa.


Back in New York.. BIG THANKS To Everyone!!!


Renat in Berlin (Germany) and Flight back to NYC – Oct. 1-3, 2010


Renat Hitchhiking from Prague (Czech Republic) to Berlin (Germany) – Oct. 31, 2010


Renat in Prague (Czech Republic) – Oct. 26-30, 2010


Renat in Prague (Czech Republic) – Oct. 21-25, 2010


Renat Hitchhiking from Vienna (Austria) to Prague (Czech Republic) – Oct. 20, 2010


Renat in Vienna (Austria) – Oct. 16-19, 2010


Renat in Vienna (Austria) – Oct. 12-16, 2010


Renat in Vienna (Austria) – Oct. 12, 2010


Renat Hitchhiking from Budapest (Hungary) to Vienna (Austria) – Oct. 12, 2010


Renat in Budapest (Hungary) – Oct. 10-12, also Hitchhiking to Vienna, 2010


Renat in Budapest (Hungary) – Oct. 8-9, 2010


Renat Hitchhiking to Budapest (Hungary) – Oct. 7 + next day in Budapest, 2010


Renat last day in Belgrade (Serbia), next day autostop to Budapest (Hungary) – Oct. 6 -7, 2010


Renat in Belgrade (Serbia) – Oct. 4-6, 2010


Renat in Belgrade (Serbia) – Oct. 3-4, 2010


Renat Hitchhiking from Sofia (Bulgaria) to Belgrade (Serbia) – Oct. 2, 2010


Renat in Sofia (Bulgaria) Sep. 24 – Oct. 1, 2010


Renat trip from Samsun to Istanbul, and then to Sofia Sep. 23-24, 2010 (SORRY: STILL NO AUDIO)


Renat heading from Tbilisi – Georgia Republic to Samsun – Turkey Sep. 21-22, 2010 (SORRY: NO AUDIO)


Renat in Tbilisi – Georgia Republic – Sep. 17-21, 2010


Renat in Tbilisi – Georgia Republic – Sep. 16-17, 2010


Renat Hitchhiking from Hopa in Turkey to Tbilisi in Georgia Republic) – Sep. 15-16, 2010


Renat in Turkey (Hitchhiking to Samsun and Hopa) – Sep. 14-15, 2010


Renat in Turkey (Hitchhiking to Samsun) – Sep. 13-14, 2010


Renat in Turkey (Breakfast in the woods with Mutlu’s family) – Sep 10 , 2010


Renat in Istanbul (Turkey) – Sep 8 , 2010


Renat in Istanbul (Turkey) – Sep 7 – 8 , 2010

Things to try in Istanbul;

Places to visit: Historical part to explore is SultanAhmet, where you will find the Blue Moscue, Aya Sofia (used to be a Church, now a museum). Also in that area is Basilica Cistern, which has a stone-carved face of Medusa who is placed upside down in the water so her evil eye does not see the spectators’. Near SultanAhmet is the Grand Bazaar, which is 650 years old with over 3600 active shops, and it is considered to be the biggest mall in Europe. Also walking distance away from it is the Spice Bazaar (be sure to checkout Egyptian Market located inside it). Istiklal kadesi (pedestrian street, begins near Taksim square). Off of Istiklal is Nevizade – bar and club area. Istanbul Modern – a museum to checkout in Bosporus area located down from Beyoglu area. Clubs: Babylon Peyote Balkon Kadikoy district, located on the Asian side. Food: For those who have a sweet tooth, definitely check out a candy store called Kavkaz (famous for their chestnut candies), found in every mall. Also turkish viagra – found at the spice bazaar in the egyptian market. Doi-Doi restaurant to try good food.. Halvetia locata (food boufet) located parallel to Istiklal before arriving to tunnel, make a right on Asmali sokak and then first left and go to the end -the gate, Halvetia will be on the corner. For 10 liras you get to choose 5 different sides, and the food is really tasty. Milk rice (comes in a dish). Marash ice cream, found at Mado ice cream shops around Istanbul. Grilled fish on Galata bridge. Mussels with rice and cinnamon. Desert with chicken (chicken pudding) Burek – salty pastry with white cheese in it. Cataif Pide – Turkish pizza Chorba – lentil soup Locanta – self-service restaurant


Renat on the way to Istanbul (Turkey) – Sep 2 – 3 , 2010


Renat arriving to Bucharest (Romania) – Aug. 29 – Sep. 2, 2010


Renat hitch-hikıng from Odessa to Bucharest (Romania) – Aug. 27-28 , 2010


Renat in Belaya Tserkov (Part 2, August 25). Autostop to Odessa begins – Aug. 27 , 2010


Renat in Kıev (Ukraine), Trıp to Belaya Tserkov, August 25, 2010


Renat Hitch-Hiking to Ukraine (Kiev) arriving August 20, staying there till Aug. 27th, 2010


Renat in Poland (Warsaw) August 16-20, 2010


Renat in Poland August 15-16 (Arriving by Hitch-Hiking to Warsaw), 2010


Renat in Berlin August 15 (Hitch-Hiking… Part 2), 2010


Renat in Berlin August 15 (Hitch-Hiking… again), 2010


Renat in Berlin August 13-14, 2010


Renat in Berlin August 11-13 (Part 3), 2010


Renat in Berlin August 11-13 (Part 2), 2010


Renat in Berlin August 11-13, 2010


Renat in Berlin August 10-11, 2010

Best Currency Exchange Rates in Prague

Best Currency Exchange Rates in Prague

Sep 25, 2010

If you happen to be in Prague having only US cash, you should be extremely careful of where you exchange your money to the Czech Kronas. After getting ripped off at a random currency exchange booth I decided to discover the best place to for currency exchange in Prague. Some couple of hours of research and approaching locals about it I found that CSOB bank has the best deal. It charges only 2% commision from the total amount exchanged. Be careful of the small currency exchange booths scattered around Prague. Most of them lure you in by presenting 0% commission signs and confusing verbiage on them mask a very poor exchange rate. If you are tempted to use them, ask what the total amount you will receive before handing over any money, they WILL NOT cancel the transaction after the receipt has been printed, I even called the local Police to revert the transaction but even they couldn’t help. The policeman even showed me a paper with a statement that all transactions are tracked by the Prague’s central bank and they are not to be canceled.

If you need to withdraw money out of an ATM using a US-issued debit card, be aware that most US banks charge at least $3 plus 3% commision from the amount withdrawn for each transaction. So it is best to simly bring cash to Europe and use banks or local exchange offices. Be aware of extremely high theft rate in Barcelona, Spain, so be sure to hide that cash well into inner pockets of your clothes. This city is the Mecca pickpocketers!